The holiday season is right around the corner, and gift cards are already flying off the proverbial shelves here at Bluestockings.
For any of y’all whose love language is gift giving, you probably feel like this
And for the rest of us, we may feel like this
(Shoutout to everyone whose parents had a copy of The Five Love Languages on the bookshelf. My love language is definitely not gift giving, in case you couldn't tell.)
Buying lingerie or underthings as a gift doesn’t have to be complicated. (And if it is complicated for you: gift cards!)
Here’s your four step guide to buying underthings for loved ones:
1. Pay attention
Underthings are like any other item of clothing. Start paying attention to what your person wears on a daily basis. Is there a correlation between their underwear and their other clothing? What colors do they seem to gravitate towards? Do they go for solids or prints? Darker or lighter colors? Pastels, neons, or jewel tones?
Also think about fabric. Do they like the finer things in life (think silk and lace trim) or do they stick to reliable basics like cotton and bamboo?
2. Do you have consensual closet access?
Laci Green, breaking down consent, generally.
IF you have consensual closet, check their size--literally. (If you don’t have consensual access, skip this step, because then you’re treading on boundary-crossing ground.) Also: be sure to note which brands goes with which size, because you are probably going to find multiple sizes in their drawer. We all wear a range of sizes!
The safest (and most flexible) bet, especially for those who don't have consensual closet access? Loungewear! Robes, nightgowns, pajamas, and even funky socks are super fun gifts. They are also not as specifically size-dependent in that they are more generously sized. Added bonus: these are the items people are far less likely to buy for themselves, so it’ll be an extra treat.
3. Does it have to be returnable?
there is a difference between independent online boutiques and Amazon
Check the return policy. I cannot stress this enough. First, check the store's policy to see if it’s a 14, 30, or 60 day return window, and plan your purchases accordingly.
Secondly: if you are purchasing an item such as a bra or binder that may have sizing issues, I would strongly encourage you to purchase the item at full price rather than on sale.
Why? Because anything you buy that is final sale is not returnable. (Note: buying a full price item with a discount code is okay. We are talking items that are already on sale, in the SALE section.)
No returns on final sale items is a clear policy numerous lingerie boutiques (Bluestockings included) have, but I field questions and complaints about this policy constantly. Since gift giving season is upon us, I'd recommend that everyone take an extra-close peek at return policies before pressing the buy button.
4. Nobody likes gifts that are actually suggestions.
If you are buying lingerie or underthings for someone you care about this season, be careful that you aren't buying something that puts your values above theirs. Does the gift affirm their sense of self? Their sexuality? Their gender identity? Their personal style? Or is it more pleasing to you?
At the end of the day, making sure you're buying for your person, and not for yourself -- and to affirm, not to suggest -- is the most important thing.
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